Yes, relationships take effort, but if you find yourself “working at it” continuously, something’s wrong.This is especially true the longer you’re together.We should have no fear being authentic and transparent with our partner.Healthy relationships are based on trust, and trust is built gradually over time, by having a variety of experiences. Trust flourishes when each partner shows their trustworthiness, behaving with integrity, consistency and follow through.There are many views about what to look for in a relationship.Ten inter-related characteristics are commonly found in healthy, mindful relationships. It is not just because you married the right person and got lucky. God’s words and God’s principles are never ever outdated…never! God did not take four or five ribs and say, “Okay, Adam, here is Eve, and here is Lois, and here is Samantha, and here is Rachel.” No, it was just one. When we speak flippantly or lightly about someone, we erode our respect for that person. In it you shall do no work: you, nor your son, nor your daughter, nor your male servant, nor your female servant, nor your cattle, nor your stranger who is within your gates. In the Scriptures, we find the best guidelines and principles for a healthy marriage. I am going to make a helper suitable for him.” And the Bible says God took one of Adam’s ribs, and He formed a woman, Eve, and brought her to the man. It means empty, meaningless, insincere, not showing due respect. Six days you shall labor and do all your work, but the seventh day is the Sabbath of the LORD your God.
Ask God to begin to open your heart to see how these commands could be looked at as principles for marriage. It’s been said that Henry Ford, on his golden wedding anniversary…50 years of marriage…was asked, “What’s the secret of your success in marriage? It will send the ship of your marriage in whatever direction your words go. Some guys were out in one of those big, long speedboats drinking and zooming back and forth at 60 miles an hour. And I think we all know that if we do not schedule it, it will not happen. She found that surveys showed the average couple spends 37 minutes or less in face-to-face conversation every week.
The problem of modern society is not so much ignorance, as an inability to act on the many important precepts which are theoretically known but aren’t active in our lives at points of crisis.
By compressing psychology into 10 injunctions, the hope is to make wisdom available to us at times when we need it most – which is often in the kitchen, when everyone has not had quite enough sleep. The good person is at all times highly aware of their flaws and committed to becoming a better version of themselves. The good person knows that everyone is deeply damaged and a little mad, starting with (of course) themselves.
These feed off of each other, supporting and strengthening the relationship.
One “must-have” in a healthy relationship is being comfortable and finding it easy to be with the other person.