Some have had serious issues such as sexual abuse from a father and this recent ex-fiancé had an absent father who occasionally contacted her (from what I understand, occasionally drunk dialed her and rarely showed up for visits).
My brother seems to be in a pattern of “saving” emotionally damaged women.
So, you might ask, what does the rescuer do and feel in her relationships?
The rescuer focuses on and worries about her partner more than he does about himself.
Everyone talks about dating someone who's "damaged." But here's the thing: no matter how much repair work I've done, I'm still a little damaged on the inside.
All it means is that I'm better in relationships than ever before.
You might ask yourself why a woman would stay with such a man.
For the rescuer, she values love and relationships above all else.
According to AT Health, children who are abandoned by their parents often experience trust issues in adulthood, making it difficult to form close interpersonal relationships.Repeatedly, she finds herself with partners who, at first, seem sweet and have tremendous potential, but before long reveal themselves to be emotionally volatile or unstable, aggressive and controlling, unhappy, or unable to cope with some aspect of their lives.Many of the men rescuers try to save struggle with depression, severe anxiety, or addictions of some sort.She called him after he left, broke the engagement off, trashed their apartment and moved out, texted my mom at am to let her know how her son had wronged her, and harassed all his friends who were on the trip with him.When he got back and told her he needed time to think things over she called him crying and asking “don’t you still want to be with me? She is and has been wildly manipulative and erratic in her behavior- she brings new meaning to the “woman scorned” adage.